For Christmas I received a photo of my birth mom standing in front of a Christmas tree in her younger days. I stared at my biological mom in this pic like this can't possibly be real! I seen a recent pic of her, but this was different. I look just like her; it's unreal. Every time I look at it I want to cry. I've spent so much time wondering what this lady was going to look like. Perhaps it's part of the reason I was dying to know who my momma was. I remember growing up looking at mothers and daughters and thinking in amazement how strong genes are. I could only imagine what traits I took from my mom at the time. My siblings and cousins say I look just like her and sound just like her out of all her 6 kids. How ironic, the one that resembles her the most is the one she left behind. I wonder what she is thinking looking at my pics today. I can't wait when I see her face to face and take a pic next to her. Im sure my nose will be stuck on the picture turning it at every angle studying the similarities. Let's just say, this is a very interesting time....
Love,
Muzik
Lovely post... I'm sure she will love the bones of you when she see's you face to face. It is strange when one first meets ones birth mother. You do tend to look to try and find ourself in her. I know I did with mine :)
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Jo x
Muzik - When I saw a picture of my relinquished daughter as a grown person, I was completely undone at how much we look like each other. Out of my four children, she is the only one who looks like me. The others bear some resemblance but she and I are cut from the same cloth. The irony that the child I relinquished looks the most like me is not lost to this mother's heart.
ReplyDeleteI hope you get to meet your mother soon and that when you do, you are both in a place where you can heal and move forward with building a new relationship.
M.
Well I must say, if you are a spitting image of your mom, she did a damn fine job on giving you life. Because you are a beautiful person to this world!
ReplyDeleteYess Jessenia DNA is powerfull!
ReplyDeleteI remember the way Josue was looking at me the day we meet for second time face to face after his borned.
I pretend I wasnt looking at him,but I was.
The feeling ”to belong” the same feeling when you give birth and you know that little person is yours.
Or vice versa that you are part of her,because she carriec you for 9 months and gave you life.
Those are physical resemblances,but when I started seeing gestures,the tone of voice,same taste,how all my kids carry themselves in the same way I was atonished.
Is something beyond....
My blood is his blood!
The same way your moms blood is running thru your veins.
<3
It's a very profound moment when we see where we came from.
ReplyDeleteI know my daughter that I relinquished looks more like me than my other 3 children that I raised. Sometimes she still gets fereaked out because we stand the same way, do the same hand motions, tilt our heads the same way. The more my daughter is around her natural family the more she sees where she gets all of hr traits. It runs much deeper than just looks.
ReplyDeleteI am not surprised - my daughter is the dark version of me. To the point where my brother - a painter - sat and stared at us. He later said he couldn't believe how much she looked like me. Not resembled, LOOKED. That is saying something.
ReplyDeletePottiJo: I am so glad to have made a friend with you over Twitter. Ur support is awesome! I can only imagine how the first hour is going to be. I probably wont hear a word she is saying. will just be looking.
ReplyDeleteLetterstomsfeverfew (M): Wow! I am glad to know I am not the only one. Thanks for sharing that. It make it easier to hear that from a birth mom (no disrespect I hate the word). It will def be a time of healing, but I know God made this happen for me at the right time. I have such a close relationship with God I know I can begin to handle it. Last year, I dont think I would have really been prepared. I am excited. Thank u! Hope to hear more about u and ur journey. It helps people like me.
Stefanie: He doll! I am so hapy to hear from you all the time. You motivate me! Thanks for ur love and support. xoxo
Olga: I love u so much! Over this year or so getting to know you and your journey you have becom family in my eyes. It is crazy how much u have helped me. I m so happy u found ur son! Brought tears to my eyes. I remember our back and forth msgs for months.
Linda: Thank u! And u ar right. Thanks for ur support.
Lori: WOW! Yea there is a difference between look and resemblance. I am amazed! Thank u too for all the support u have been amazing!
I cannot thank you all enough for ur support. This day could not have happened without ur support. Love you all!
Thank you so much for sharing this with us.I've been praying for this moment ever since I started reading your blog.I'm so thankful that it's finally happening.
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